Monday, 27 June 2016

First Wedding Anniversary: what I learned in my first year as a wife


Exactly one year ago I was getting ready for the most exciting day of my life and for the great adventure after it. The day started off a bit cloudy and rainy, but as me and my now hubby first saw each other on our wedding day, the rain almost magically stopped. 

Our wedding day was perfect and just what we had wished for. We planned everything from A to Z ourselves and put a lot of effort into every little detail, which made it easy for us to just enjoy the actual wedding day. A year later I can say it was the perfect start for a wonderful journey and I can't wait for more adventures with my main cuddle<3


To me marriage means love, safety and caring. In a way it has helped me become the person I want to be. There are so many things I wouldn't have done and experienced without the help of my husband. I'm not saying every girl needs a man by their side and I probably would have done these things all by myself, but love seems make me do things more efficiently.

So the few things I especially want to mention to you, aren't really related to being a good wife, since I'm probably the worst at being a traditional wife. Oh boy am I glad that being a good wife in the 21st century doesn't mean cooking and cleaning 24/7! Instead I want to write about general things I've learned about life and also marriage.



1. Cherish even the smallest moments in your life
We all know they are the ones that fill up our lives. Great things such as weddings and other big occasions bring excitement to our lives but the little thing are the base. It's like life is a bowl of pasta, pasta being the little moments and you spice it up with all of the exciting and bigger things in life. 


2. Be you
Do things you enjoy, and don't let anybody bully you to do something you're not comfortable with. You'll never be able to please all the people in this world, so you might as well stop trying to do so. I was definitely guilty of trying before. Somehow the security of marriage has changed this. I guess I know I'll always have my hubby for support if everything else falls apart. Anyhow I can't even begin to describe how good it feels to let that go.


3. Fill your life with people who you care about and likewise
I dedicate my time to important people. The ones I'm interested in and the ones who show interest towards me. If the relationship isn't a two-way street, I don't see the point of it. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE meeting new people and getting to know them better. However I need to feel comfortable in their company to become their friend. The sad fact is that I don't have time for everybody and I really want to dedicate my time to those whom I love and enjoy the company of <3 Which, by the way, means many of you readers <3



4. People think marriage equals babies
Haha, I had to include this :D I've lost count a long time ago how many times I've been asked if we're planning on having babies or how many times I've been  told to start soon. Before I got married I thought it was just people talking how kind of annoying it is when people are so nosy. After being married a year, I know they actually do so! It's kind of amusing to me, but I do sometimes wonder how people dare to play with such a delicate thing. First of all the matter is very private and secondly getting babies might not be so easy for all couples, which makes it a very touchy subject to talk about. Thirdly, telling women they look like they're pregnant isn't very nice either.

As it's our paper anniversary, we might just look at some flight tickets tonight ;)

All pictures were taken by the amazing Täydenkuun Kuva.

What do you think of marriage? What does it mean to you?
What have you learned in the past year?
How do you like my new layout? :) 

I hope you all have a lovely week my darling chickpeas<3
Emma xxx

PS. You can now follow my blog on Facebook! :) 

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33 comments

  1. This is such a cute post. Your wedding dress was beautiful!

    www.beautylifebecca.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. I loved this. I'm getting married next year and I can't wait, you've made me even more excited now!

    www.happyhels.com

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    1. Thank you Helen <3 Oooh exciting times for you then? I hope all the planning is going well <3 Getting and being married is the best :) xxx

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  3. you look incredible!! Congratulations on your first year, your dress was stunning, and I love the pictures on your flowers. Stunning!

    http://www.makeerinover.co.uk

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    1. Thanks hon <3 your words mean a lot to me :) xxx

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  4. Your wedding photos are beautiful! Happy anniversary :)

    xo, Liz
    http://lipstickandconfetti.com

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    1. Thank you so much Elisabeth :) xxx

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  5. Wow! Your wedding photos are gorgeous Emma!! I also love your new blog layout, did you change it? (It have been a little too long since I visited your blog!) Also do you have a post about how you got your hair like the one in your blog picture? (The one that's like on the top right corner of your blog) haha.

    Have a lovely day!

    -Sophie xx || Cherries and Perfume

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    1. Thanks Sophie <3 Yes, I changed the layout a couple of days ago, so glad you noticed it :) I don't have a post about it yet, but I'll be sure to write one soon. I promise it's very easy :) xxx

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  6. Such a lovely post! Congrats on your first anniversary!!
    Hugs,
    Love from www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

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  7. Congratulations on your first anniversary! Looking at flights sounds like a great anniversary present. Sophie x

    stylestarsandsparkle.com

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    1. Thank you Sophie :) the pressie was supposed to be something papery...but tickets are, right? :D xxx

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  8. First of all congratulations on your anniversary, you both looked amazing! I guess people will never change and keep asking about the babies. We got asked a few days after the wedding "so when are you planning to have babies", it gets kinda annoying, doesn't it:)? Being you and respecting each other as well as cherishing every moment are some of the things for a happy relationship I guess, that's what I am trying to do.
    Have an amazing week and I hope you managed to find cheap tickets ;) xx

    Ela BellaWorld

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    1. Thanks hon <3 Haha, I'm so glad I'm not the only one with this experience. I like children and I'll probably want some at some point of my life. Now just isn't the time yet. People just don't seem to believe that :D
      And yaaay we actually booked a holiday <3 woop woop ! xxx

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  9. Happy first wedding anniversary! :) I love your gown! It looks absolutely beautiful on you.

    xoxo
    Regina
    http://mybeautymusings.com

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    1. Aww thanks Regina <3 You've put a huge smile on my face :) xxx

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  10. Marriage to me means the deepest commitment I can give, and a connection to someone that is more than to anyone else. It is about becoming family, whether children are included or not doesn't matter.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    1. Right you are Anne! I agree on everything you said :) xx

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  11. Awww, this was such a lovely, heartfelt post, darling! Absolutely loving the gorgeous photos, you look so happy and radiant and I'm just sooo happy for the both of you, hun! :) <3 Congratulations on your anniversary, of course! For me, marriage is... Well, it's a little tricky actually. I've been with my better half for seven years now, and I'm not sure whether we will ever get married. Not that I wouldn't like to, but I feel that we got together at such an early age (I was 16 and he was my first boyfriend, I was his first girlfriend also), that so much time's passed already by the time we were old enough to marry, that it kind of... Well, I guess the idea of marriage took more of a back seat. My boyfriend always says that he doesn't need a piece of paper to prove that he loves me, although to me it's about more than that, of course. We will see what the future brings, I guess. :) x x Deffo not interested in having children, though! x Hope you're well hun, kisses. x x

    Kay
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    1. Thank you so much my lovely blogger bestie<3 ;)
      I totally understand your point. And it's definitely something I had to think about a lot when I got married. In the end, marriage didn't change anything in our relationship, we just the same together as always. But I think it gave me some sort of a feeling of safety and it boosted my self-confidence a lot. That of course might have happened for some other, unknown, reasons too but as I said in my post, I think it's easier to be me nowadays :) But I totally understand people who don't get married, because nowadays it's definitely not a necessity and it doesn't measure the amount you love somebody at all. :)

      Thanks for the honest and thoughtful comment hon <3 love you lots <3 xxx

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  12. Happy Anniversary! Such a lovely worded post. You looks stunning in the photos. Gemma x
    www.jacquardflower.uk

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  13. Happy Anniversary my dear! I have to say, this post was on point. Especially the babies part.. If I had a dollar... Anyways, I really loved how you said that the security of marriage has given you the freedom to truly be yourself. This is something I've noticed about my marriage, but haven't been able to put it into words. Isn't love just the greatest? True love gives us wings. xX

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    1. Thanks lovely <3 I'm so happy somebody else feels the same way. This is exactly why I write my blog <3 True love is the best and can really conquer many things :) Thanks for the lovely comment sweetie. Hope you're having a wonderful weekend <3 xxx

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  14. Aww, this is the most perfect post ever, honey!!! Happy Anniversary, sweetie!! :) You two are perfect together & it's amazing how much being married to your best friend can teach you and reveal about yourself and the relationship. If not, the marriage only makes the feelings stronger <3 I can relate to every little paragraph so much :) Ahhh, all the feels! As for the babies, why don't people understand it's OK to hold off? We are in no rush and love our time spent together, love our freedom to take off anywhere we want in a second, travel around the world etc. When it happens, it happens but it's no one else's decision but ours.
    Much much love to you, sweetie! Hope you are doing super great & enjoying your weekend.
    xoxoxo Nadia
    www.mielandmint.com

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    1. Thank you gorgeous <3 It's so funny how I always feel like I'm alone with these thoughts but then I write them in a blogpost and so many agree <3 it's the best! And babes, exactly my thoughts on the babies. Although I truly want believe they won't restrict me from doing the things I want to do when or if I have any (happy parents=happy children!), it's so much easier at the moment to just fly away whenever. But my baby rabbit is enough at the moment <3 :D
      Thanks for the amazing comment again bestie :) love you soooo much <3<3<3 xxx

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  15. Wow Emma! Happy Anniversary! This really, really makes me excited for my upcoming marriage and gives me hope that true love will never die, despite the supposed 50% divorce rate in the US. I was reading some of those confessions on that Whisper website, and a lot of them are so sad...anonymous people saying,"I hooked up with the bride before the ceremony", "My husband laughed in my face when asked to take me as his wife", etc. etc. and those people don't seem to take marriage at all seriously. My fiance and I want babies but we want to wait a few years because we would like to travel and save up for a house. I don't feel like I'm ready for that yet, and oh the pain! Although I am worried as we are reaching into our 30s, there may be health risks involved, especially for me. But so many women have happy, healthy babies in their 30s! My mom had me at 31! Cecilio keeps joking with me about the wedding night, and how people are going to ask..."how was it?" the thought of them asking that makes me cringe, that is so personal!

    Hannah
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  16. Your wedding pictures are absolutely stunning - you look SO beautiful!

    Hayley x
    www.frockmeimfamous.com

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